Pick Me Boy Meaning: Definitions, Examples, & More

What is a Pick Me Boy?

A pick me boy is a guy who emotionally manipulates women by faking low self esteem. He also may falsely claim to tát hold feminist or progressive views to tát garner favor.

1. 

   At first, it might seem lượt thích the guy has low self-esteem, but it's actually a tactic to tát get recognition or emotional tư vấn from a woman he likes.^[1]

   • Usually, he'll say something self-deprecating in order to tát make the woman he's talking to tát reassure him and tell him how great he is. He might even go ví far as to tát ask her out, hoping that she feels ví guilty she'll accept.

2. 

   He'll share viewpoints that seem really progressive or feminist because he thinks that will make him seem different phàn nàn other guys.

   • Pick Me Boys are also notorious for making stereotypical assumptions about gender roles.

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1. 

   The term first popped up in online magazines lượt thích Dominique and The Root back in 2017. Articles described the Pick Me Man as a variation of a simp—someone who does way too much for someone they lượt thích.^[2]

   • Although the term means something different now, it's important to tát recognize that it had its start in Black mạng internet culture.
   • You can treat a Pick Me Boy the same way you'd deal with a simp—be honest and clear about how you feel.

2. 

   Pick Me Boy entries popped up on Urban Dictionary in February and the idea quickly made its way to tát TikTok, where the term became really popular.^[3]

   • A lot of TikToks point out the differences between the Pick Me Girl and the Pick Me Boy—neither of the terms is very positive, ví they're cautionary videos. The Pick Me Girl claims to tát be different from all other women, ví she stands out to tát men.

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1. 

   This is a Pick Me Boy's way of giving a compliment, but he expects something in return. Specifically, he wants you to tát argue and say that he's good enough for you. He may continue this idea until he can ask you out.^[4] Here's another way he does this when messaging:

   • Boy: "Hi. 😃"
     You: "Hi."
     Boy: "Oh, wow. Girls never text bầm back."
   • He'll probably be pretty soft spoken or timid when saying these things—it's only after you reject him that his demeanor totally changes.

2. 

   He says this to tát immediately get your pity. Plus, it's his way of setting you up for a challenge—he's hoping you'll want to tát prove him wrong and give you a chance. Think of this response as a bit of sly reverse psychology. He might also say:

   • "I'm ví ugly."
   • "No one ever talks to tát bầm."
   • "I don't blame you. Who would want to tát go out with me?"
     • The guy will probably pause and look at you after saying something lượt thích this—he's waiting for you to tát jump in and correct him.

3. 

   He might bring up a feminist idea out of the xanh xao just to tát signal how progressive he is. Don't be surprised if he immediately makes a move after saying something lượt thích this—he thinks you'll be impressed that understands you and you won't dare turn him down.^[5]

   • He'll probably seem vocal or passionate about a topic before he totally switches gears and focuses on you.

4. 

   This is his last shot at making it with you. If he's not getting emotional tư vấn or recognition from you, he'll fall back on this phrase. It's kind of lượt thích his Hail Mary—he's hoping you'll change your mind and agree to tát keep talking with him or accept your offer of a date.^[6]

   • He might switch this up a bit and say something lượt thích, "I'll stop bothering you now."
   • Pay attention to tát how he starts acting. He might act overly emotional and start crying, or he'll become bitter and angry.

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